How to Handle Valentine’s Day after a Breakup

Feb 13, 2017 | by: Raeeka

Ah, Valentine’s Day. It’s a holiday celebrating love, but if you’re single or going through a breakup or divorce, it can feel like just another painful reminder of your relationship status and a focus you on what you don’t have. Now here is the deal, I believe there’s a flip side to lack, and that is to have. So let’s see how Valentine’s day can be a celebration of what you do have!

Valentine’s Day celebrates love, yes, but who says it has to be only about romantic partner love? This February 14th, I challenge you to celebrate the love you have for yourself. Some of you might have demonstrated this love by letting go of a relationship that wasn’t a match and by risking being single to create space for the right man to come into your life. And some of you might be experiencing the pain of a relationship that was just not meant to be, and now is the time to begin that journey toward self-love.

Celebrate self-love this Valentine’s Day by empowering yourself, practicing the art of self-compassion and gratitude, and learning how to access and activate the power of intention inside of you.

To begin, make a list of all your good attributes. When you think you’ve gotten them all, ask your close friends and coworkers to share with you what they feel are your best qualities. If you feel shy about it, tell them you’ve been given an assignment that you are just fulfilling. Add these additions to the list, and post it in a place where you will see it every day, like on the bathroom mirror or the refrigerator. Look at your strengths daily and feel the confidence growing inside of you.  When you focus your thoughts and begin to fully understand what you do have and you celebrate those thoughts, your actions are more confident too as you are not coming from a place of lack and scarcity.

Here’s another idea: celebrate self-love this Valentine’s Day by going out and doing something you’ve always wanted to do. Take a class in something you’re that interests you, like painting, pottery, dance, or yoga. Take a road trip somewhere relaxing for the weekend and make a spa appointment. Pamper yourself, buy some gorgeous, expensive flowers – take YOU out this Valentine’s Day and treat yourself really, really well.

Now, the art of practicing self-love is not to be mistaken with being a “self snob” –  it’s about tuning into your needs and wants, and creating a life that is in alignment with your values and desires. I promise you’ll be surprised at how the right men start showing up when you have the confidence that self-love brings. And who knows, before you know it that true Valentine just might appear right at your front door.

In the meanwhile, know that  you deserve all the love in the world and there is no reason why you wouldn’t find the man of your dreams, even if in this moment that doesn’t seem possible.


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