Dating in the modern age has never been easier! Online dating has become the most commonly used and most effective dating practice, and it’s the way most people connect. Sure, it’s different from the way your parents dated, but they also didn’t have cell phones and email. Technology has changed the way we live our lives in so many ways, and dating is no different!
When we’re talking about <h1; font-size: 12>how to find true love with online dating</h1; /font-size>, the first step to success is to create an absolutely magnetic profile that will have the most desired, relationship-ready men begging for your attention! Here are 5 secrets that make my Dating with Confidence clients some of the most successful women in online dating:
- Give your ideal man a juicy mental image of what it would be like to be with you
You are already enjoying a pretty fabulous life, so let him know what your life is like and let him know that you can’t wait to share it with that special someone. This makes all the difference between attracting super quality, relationship-ready men, and the same old unavailable ones! The right kind of man will clue in on your confidence, independence, and focus, and he will be able to imagine how he could fit into and enhance your already wonderful life. Let him know about your relationship style too. Write down how you imagine yourself resolving conflict in your ideal relationship. Will you be compassionate and communicative? Do you value honesty and face-to-face conflict resolution? Are you ok with agreeing to disagree? This lets him know you’ve thought these aspects of your life through fully, and if his values align with yours, this gives him the opportunity to prove to you that he is the man you’re looking for.
- Show your future man how he can win with your heart
Quality men hate playing games. If you are able to clearly articulate what it is you want and need, they’re totally willing to go the extra mile to impress you. This principle goes beyond your profile as well. Guys are not mind readers, and contrary to the unrealistic image of love that disney cartoons and hollywood romantic comedies promote, quality, relationship-ready men want (and need) to know what makes you happy so they can give you what you need.
HOT TIP: Do you love when your guy surprises you with little gifts and gestures? Maybe that sort of thing wasn’t a priority in his last relationship, but you can let him know that it’s important to you so he’ll be able to surprise you down the road. Instead of expecting him to read your mind and feeling angry and dejected when he doesn’t, casually slip him a clear hint. For example, you could write, “You and I have been around and know enough about how surprising each other with little things can brighten our days.”
- Stay away from language that is bossy, protective or defensive
Invite your ideal man into your profile like a gracious host, and lovingly reveal your needs. Stay away from negative language like “If you’re not into having a relationship, stay away from me / don’t contact me.” Instead, write something like “I have a lovely life with wonderful friends and family, and I can’t wait to share it with a special man who is also looking for a committed relationship.” Avoid phrases like “I will never tolerate…” or “The man I want must…” Write your profile in the way that you would like to read in an ideal man’s profile. If you don’t like the tone of something, or if a particular tone or phrase sets you off or makes you feel judged, then don’t write your own profile in that way. It’s totally OK to include your non-negotiables in your profile, but remember to always express them with grace and love. In this way, you can create a feeling of partnership rather than isolating potential partners by being protective and defensive.
HOT TIP: Make sure you have worked your non-negotiables out so you don’t have any more than 5-6 of them. There is a difference between decisive and picky, and listing too many non-negotiables could scare away potentially wonderful matches.
- Make sure you have at least one really good, high-resolution photo taken with a nice camera and good lighting
Whether you like it or not, first impressions matter when it comes to dating. Of course it’s what you say that really matters, but that first glance and initial attraction is what is going to get potential matches to take the time to read further.
HOT TIP: If you go to groupon.com you can find great deals for photoshoots with local professionals. Remember, your photo should look like you! Don’t go overly glam or go crazy with photoshop. You should look friendly, open, approachable, and like the best version of yourself!
- Don’t write a novel
You can allow yourself up to 8-10 short paragraphs, but be sure to be playful and straight to the point. If you write a novel, your potential matches will lose interest. Say what you want to say and move on. Remember that the function of your profile is just to let your ideal man know that you exist. Once you begin dating, you will have many opportunities to express yourself in more detail, and to SHOW him who you are and what you like. Give just enough to set the tone around your values and highlight the key points that are really important to you.
Go out there and create the love life you desire and deserve – you can do it!
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