A guy can do a great job of showing you that he’s into you at the present moment. He might do things like:
Keeping Clear Eye Contact: He’s not looking around and distracted, or checking his phone 10 times. He’s looking at you and you only – even when you’re not looking – you can tell he’s still focused on you 😉
Leaning in and Being Attentive: He squares his posture only to you, making it obvious he’s not about to hit on other women or see what’s happening around him. He might “accidentally”, or not, touch your shoulder or arm, he’s calm and not fidgety, and he mirrors your body posture (because he’s paying attention).
Listening Intently: He’s focused on what you have to say, he’s interested, and he asks questions and likes to get the conversation going so he can have more time with you.
If he’s doing these things that’s a good sign. But is he really into you and looking for a future with you?
At the end of the day, you want to make sure the guy who’s showing interest is actually into you and your dating is going somewhere with him. Here are some surefire ways how to tell if he’s into you and if your dating is on the path to moving into something more substantial.
6 Signs That He’s Into You – How To Tell He Is Serious
He includes you in his future
When he talks about the future, he talks about you being in the picture – you’re at the future event he’s talking about, or he might ask if you’d be interested in going to a future event. He talks about the future using “we” and not just what he will be doing. His vision of his future plans clearly includes you.
He pays attention to the small things
He picks up your salad and gets the croutons on the side because that’s how you ordered it last time. He knows your favorite drink. He puts the pillows back on the couch like you had them. When he pays attention to the little things, he’s showing that he cares about what’s important to you.
He makes an effort to hang out with your friends and doesn’t fuss about it
You really want him to meet your friends so they can see what you’re talking about! So when you ask him if he can go out with you and your girlfriends, he makes an effort to put it in his schedule. He’s willing to go through the discomfort of meeting your crazy friends and being under pressure, and he handles it with grace.
He wants to introduce you to his family and friends
He tells you he wants his family to meet you, and he makes an effort to introduce you to his siblings, parents and friends. He doesn’t make plans with them separately and then meet you after; he wants to include you in his other relationships.
He is consistent with follow up and making plans
He loves spending time with you, and he is consistent with texting/calling and making plans. When he says he’s going to call you, he does. He competes to have more of your time and makes sure your time with him is secure. He’s not playing games when it comes to communicating, and he wants you to know that he’s serious about doing what he says.
6. He does nice things just because
He stops by with take out or picks up some of your favorite organic vegetable from the market. He leaves little post-it love notes. Or he picks up washing the dishes where you left off when you had to take a phone call. It’s obvious that he enjoys doing things for you to make your life easier, or just to see the smile on your face. While it’s nice if you return the favor, that’s not why he does it.
If you’re not seeing any of these signs yet and it’s early into your dating, be patient. He will need some time to learn what’s important to you and to show you he’s thinking about a long-term commitment. Keep an eye out for these as the relationship progresses.
And if it’s been a while and you’re not seeing any of these signs, maybe it’s time to sit down and have a talk with him and ask him where he sees things going in the future. After all if you’re serious about your love life, you deserve to be with a guy who’s looking for lasting love too!
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